Ever feel like the world is working against you? Like no matter how hard you try, things just don’t go your way?

I used to feel that way too.

Whenever something in my business wasn’t working, I had a go-to response: blame someone else. The economy. The competition. The market. My team. Anything but me.

The Problem: Playing the Blame Game

When things go wrong, it’s easy to point fingers. It feels good in the moment—it protects your ego, keeps you from facing hard truths, and lets you believe the problem is “out there.”

But here’s the real issue: When you blame others, you give away your power.

And that’s exactly what I did. One of my businesses was struggling, and instead of fixing it, I spent my energy making excuses.

The Consequence: Nothing Changes

The more I blamed, the worse things got. Cash flow problems, disengaged employees, missed opportunities—I had an endless list of “reasons” why it wasn’t my fault.

But here’s the catch: As long as I saw myself as the victim, I couldn’t be the solution.

And if you don’t take ownership of your circumstances, how can you possibly change them?

The Aha Moment: Facing the Truth

One day, after another frustrating month of declining sales, I took a step back. I asked myself a tough question:

What if the real problem… was me?

That’s when everything shifted.

I realized that almost everything that wasn’t working in my business was something I had the power to change:
✅ Poor sales? I wasn’t training my team well enough.
✅ Low customer retention? I wasn’t delivering enough value.
✅ High employee turnover? I wasn’t leading effectively.

That’s when I created one of my most successful training programs: “If It Is To Be, It Is Up To Me.”

It became my personal mantra. And once I started living by it, my business (and my life) transformed.

The Solution: Owning Your Outcomes

What I learned—and what I now teach leaders and entrepreneurs—is this:

🔹 Stop waiting for circumstances to change.
🔹 Start taking full responsibility.
🔹 Decide to be the person who makes things happen.

Because when you shift from blaming to owning, everything changes.